I’ve finally started writing more self-help based articles and books again. Please enjoy my first official Kindle ebook, Breakup Rehab!
Because I’ve been through it first hand, discussed it with friends over tea and researched the hell out of the current material out there, I feel I have a lot of advice to offer you that actually works. If it works for my obsessive mind, it can for sure help you.
I deeply wish someone would have written this for me many years ago so that I didn’t have to learn things the hard way. However, I am thankful I can provide you with some insight.
The value in this for you is that I know exactly what you need to do to be successful in your endeavor of heartbreak and I know just as well how to ruin your chances. This was once a long article posted here but I have since published it into an ebook for the Kindle to make it easier to read and take along with you during hard times when you’re expected to play it cool, calm and creative.
Please feel so inspired to purchase the inexpensive (it’s only $.99 for a limited time!) ebook and come along aboard the love train with me, keep your hands inside and your rings on tight. This is going to be bumpy ride. I appreciate all of the support I can get and I know my long-term readers will appreciate it.
This article is geared towards those of us in a serious relationship with, or married to, a man. If you’re interested in getting a woman back you’ll obviously need to go about things quite a bit differently but this advice could loosely be used to get a girl back as well since it’s mostly about helping yourself progress to attract your mate so feel free to replace all the ‘he and hims’ to ‘shes and hers.’ If you’re interested in revisiting a friendship just remove all of the romantic parts. This majority of the advice is great for getting over any break-up in a positive and successful way so feel free to make use of it as you please.
Want more advice?
If you’re looking for more ideas to save your relationship or marriage stay tuned for an actual relationship course (that you can take alone but it would be best to take with your significant other). I promise to first subject my friends and eventually my significant other to the course so I can include helpful hints and extra valuable information along the way. You might say we’re still collecting inspiration so if you have a story about parting ways with or reconciling with your ex be sure to let me know all about it! Don’t worry, you can always remain anonymous.
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I am learning to let go. Joy and pain are inseparable. I recently took a 300 mile bike ride to try to reclaim my self determination and “get over her”, only to find myself using that new confidence and momentum to get back into her arms. It was wonderful. Now it’s horrible again. The lessons are mine. I am thankful. Happiness is not as important as truth. In fact, feeling like I need her to be happy, or need her for my own happiness is the very thing that is the sadness that drives us to conflict. The seperation that ensues doesn’t mean our connection is any less true, or real, or important. On the contrary, I feel better connected to everything by having faced my pain and denial and loathing. I’d not have known my best or worst self, had someone not been brave or rash enough to show me.
There’s no ideal but now.
Thanks for being!!!
I appreciate your honesty and I know just how you feel needing someone to be happy. I’m in a similar situation finding I feel I need my husband and daughter to feel whole. I wish I had all of the answers to happiness but it lies within you. When you feel truly happy by yourself is when you have made exceptional progress. Then those people and things you desire will be more likely to gravitate to you and stay leaving the complications of needing behind. <3
Once again, thank you. It’s been a lot to deal with and it’s good to talk about it. People need eachother. People need to be themselves to be people for eachother. We are more than our roles.. We create the world together.
I totally agree. You have an awesome outlook on life. <3
Relationships end for a reason. We should all learn to move on so we can find someone more compatible.
Yes, I agree. Chances are they end for a reason and it’s time to move on. <3 ...but if you want to work on the things that caused issues in your relationship you might just realize you are good for each other once the resentments have been resolved.
Either way though this book is about finding yourself and healing, not NEEDING, which is super important whether you want your partner back or not. I think most of us decide we're better off -- I think that's the beauty of it.
muchas gusto!!
When is the best time to start dating again?
I touch on this in the book. When I wrote this I was hoping to work things out but by the time my ex came back to me, as I feared he wouldn’t, I had already realized it was a very unhealthy relationship for both of us and have finally moved on to a much more fulfilling one. <3 I touch on this in the book as well -- whether it's best to move on seems to be uncovered once you find yourself again.